Happy Thursday Big Rock Yoga CommUNITY! I hope you are getting ready to celebrate the Fourth of July weekend with the people who are like “fireworks” in your life—people who bring you joy and inspire you. I feel that there has been much to celebrate lately—-especially the completion of yoga teacher training this past weekend. I want to give a special thank you to Wendy, Paige, Shauna, Wade, Gabriel, Esther, Annabelle, and Callie Boyce for making teacher training so special and memorable.
This week I want to focus on celebration—but not in the typical “party and Hallmark card” sense. I want to take celebration out of a “social” context and place it in relationship to ourselves as individuals. What i’m trying to say is, what if we had permission to celebrate ourselves by ourselves? You may be thinking, this does not sound like a celebration at all—but trust me, YOU can be your own party everyday.
As a person who constantly seeks affirmation from others, I resist acknowledging myself for my choices and accomplishments. This need for affirmation can be as simple as me asking my mother 15 times if she likes the new pair of pants I bought or it can be as major as me failing to make a decision about my future plans because I need approval and affirmation to take action and make a choice. I resist accepting and owning my happiness. I’m making a conscious choice to celebrate myself—not out of vanity or because I’m a narcissist—but out of self-love in the sincere and humble sense.
I think we often forget that we live inside ourselves—we know what we love and what we don’t love better than anyone. As Don Miguel Ruiz says in The Four Agreements, “When you feel good, everything around you is good. When everything around you is great, everything makes you happy. You are loving everything that is around you, because you are loving yourself. Because you like the way you are. Because you are content with you. Because you are happy with your life. You are happy with the movie that you are producing, happy with your agreements with life. You are at peace, and you are happy. You live in that state of bliss where everything is so wonderful, and everything is so beautiful. In that state of bliss you are making love all the time with everything you perceive.”
The best celebration we can have is to celebrate ourselves—because the gifts of celebrating ourself are self-love and self-trust. No one can give us the gift of self-love and self-trust other than ourselves. When we learn to celebrate ourselves, then we can truly celebrate others. Let’s become the master’s of our own party so that when life invites us to celebrate, we know how dance, sing, but best of all, we know how to give the gift of love because we know how to love ourselves.